It’s that time of year again where students of all ages head back to school. From kindergarten to grad school, brilliant minds are being molded and shaped. So why are office dynamics still so challenging? Why is it that seemingly grown adults still get caught in “I don’t like so and so from marketing, they just have it out for me.”
I wish I had the one solution…I’d be an instant “business guru” making $50k a day on the corporate speaking circuit. (*Note here- I may not be a guru but if you like this post, I’m significantly cheaper that the $50k crowd. Call me.) Thus, like any good communications professional, I went to my best source. I asked my wonderful, brilliant daughter to share how people should work to get along. Her points are brilliantly simple and truly do remind me of the principle of All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. Really, after years of study we should all know this but here goes.
1) We get along because we’re one class. We’re a team.
An honest point and realistic understanding that, unless you’re the CEO, you aren’t going to have the ability to build your team *exactly* as you might like. Fact is you’re always going to have different personalities, styles, and talents on any team. It’s not always fun to work with, or for, people who you may not love but the sooner you can accept that life isn’t always a bed of roses the better. You’ve got your team, the key is to best fit in and make the team better in any way you can.
2) If we disagree, we still get along.
Really? Kids at five and six get this, why don’t we? Disagreement happens and in the grown-up world it can actually be a good thing. In my experience, if you never disagree it means that you’re probably not trying hard enough and thinking about ideas that will really make a difference.
There are ways to disagree professionally. It shouldn’t be a personal issue when someone questions an idea or a particular effort. Give feedback that will move you toward the ultimate good of the company and accept feedback or questions that do the same.
3) If we have problems, we talk to the person first. Then you go to a teacher after you try to work it out.
Seriously, if everyone did this there’d be so much less drama at the office. It is so much more effective to go to “Bob” in accounting if you’re having an issue than complaining to your boss about Bob. Nobody (CEO’s, Presidents, Exec Directors) likes a crybaby. If you haven’t even made an effort to professionally resolve a potential issue with a colleague before raising the issue with your boss and making it a high corporate priority you very much risk damaging your own reputation as much or more than that of the person you’re discussing. Obviously there will be times in your career when higher-level intervention is needed and there are cases when a co-worker is seriously inappropriate and in need of an attitude adjustment. Just be sure you’ve done all you can reasonably can do to solve the issue directly first before pointing fingers.
I had a blast hearing how simple this all seems to a child. What else have you learned and what other tips do you have to avoid needless office headaches?